Dr. James A. & Mrs. DeEtta M. West
We want to share our life with you by simply letting you know that marriage is a beautiful thing and that your life together can work. Marriage is THE relationship that God has ordained and it personifies God’s presence in the life of all of humanity.
Remember the thoughts expressed in I Peter 3:1-7(Verse 7) Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
Submission is the responsibility of a Christian husband as well (Eph 5:21“submitting to one another in the fear of God”). Though not submitting to his wife as a leader, a believing husband must submit to the loving duty of being sensitive to the needs, fears, and feelings of his wife. In other words, a Christian husband needs to subordinate his needs to hers (she comes first), whether she is a Christian or not. Peter specifically notes consideration, chivalry (respect for a woman), and companionship.
While she is fully equal in Christ and not inferior spiritually because she is a woman (Gal 3:28 “there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus”), she is physically weaker, and in need of protection, provision (provider= pro is before, vi-de-o= vision or to ‘see beforehand’), and strength from her husband.
The “grace of life” is not salvation, but marriage, the best relationship earthly life has to offer. The husband must cultivate companionship and fellowship with his wife, Christian or not (Eccl 9:9 “live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun”).
“Prayers may not be hindered”, this refers specifically to the husband’s prayer for the salvation of his wife. Such a prayer would be hindered if he were not respectful of her needs and fellowship.
Allow us to share with you the following picture journal as you walk with us, reflecting on the years of walking with the Lord while learning each other and learning to live with each other.
Enjoying a few days in San Francisco headed to our new home in Oahu, Hawaii.
1979- Pastor James & First Lady DeEtta celebrating our arrival with the members of our Church in Oahu, Hawaii.
1988-In the beautiful City of Angels (Los Angeles) at James’ high school reunion (20 yrs).
Circa 2003-At a birthday celebration for our dear friend.